This is not where I should be is a very dangerous story we tell ourselves every time change knock.
They say fear kills more dreams, I would say “this is not where I am supposed to be” killed more dreams than fear ever would.
We say it more often that I’ll argue that it is even a more dangerous word than what people will think about us.
That statement “this is not where I should be,” could be so toxic. It’s a statement that allows for us not to accept our present situation, find peace with it and find a way to move on. It is a statement that brings about stress in our lives, we try to fight ourselves for being where we are, we let the little negativity crept in, and we keep fixating on our agony that we forget to move on.
Every time I catch up with some people, it is almost always the same story. First they will compare themselves with their other friends and feel bad when they see them doing good or better than them.
What these people fail to realize is that even if they got most of these things themselves, they would still be miserable. Because that type of thinking has become part of their life now.
There’s no escape from constant comparisons. Creating a life that reflects your values and satisfies your soul is a rare achievement. Rejoice in what you have without comparing yourself with anyone. Be content! That’s how you live a good life.
Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person you are…..Kurt Cobain
Part of it has become a normal and cultural phenomenon. Our people now project life as a kind of a race where you have to get ahead of everybody. Settling or being content are just not part of our fast – paced life. And that is why we are unhappy even when we have most of what many could only dream to have.
Admittedly, we are insatiable but looking at only a small fraction of a whole person and ranking that part against yourself is pointless activity.
We should be very careful of that statement ” this is not where I should be.” Learn to rejoice in what you have without comparing. Realize that success and contentment aren’t the same.