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Cyber-bullying

Why do people bully?

Cyberbullying is when someone, typically a teenager, bullies or harasses others on the Internet like posting rumors, threats, sexual remarks, a victim’s personal information. Cyber-bullying also known as online bullying.

Over the past week , There has been usage of anonymous messaging platform throughout Nigeria. The platform was originally designed for exchanging anonymous messages before it was transfered into a breeding ground for hate, where some people posts negative information, Critiques of fellow students and mean things about people.

I have listened to series of random voice notes of people who has been subjected to cyber bullying via anonymous messaging platform, “Its unfair”, While those people may think their posts are completely anonymous, posts can be traced back to phone and or computer that posted the comments. It is important for people to know that all posts on any platform of social media never disappear and never fully anonymous. Threats are not jokes.

Threats are not jokes!

Look at the picture above, cyber bullying are mostly done anonymously, so you may not be sure who is targeting you, as they believe online anonymous means they are less likely to get caught. Since cyberbullies can’t see your reaction, they will often go much further in the harassment than they would if they were face-to-face with you.

Why do people bully? Is it because they have low self-esteem , they are frustrated with their life, they are jealous of you, lack of remorse , to escape their own problem, to look tough, to gain attention? Whatever the reasons for you being targeted, its important to remember that you’re not alone. Many of us have been bullied at some point in our lives, i’ve been bullied before but i got over it immediately because the bully is an unhappily frustrated person who wants to have control over your feelings so that you feel as badly as they do.

A friend of mine was called a “Prostitute” anonymously, the advice i gave to her and what I’ll always advice anybody is that ” Don’t respond to any messages or posts written about you, no matter how hurtful or untrue it is. Responding will only make the situation worse and provoking a reaction from you is exactly what the cyberbullies want, Don’t seek revenge on a cyberbully by becoming a cyber bully yourself.

Cyber bullies can torment you 24hours a day, seven days a week, and the bullying can follow you anywhere so that no place, not even home ever feels safe. And with a few clicks the humiliation can be witnessed by hundreds or even thousands of people online. If you’re being targeted of cyber bullies, you’re made to feel hurt, you may even feel suicidal, your physical health is likely to suffer like developing mental health problem.

No one deserves to be treated in this way, if you’re being targeted, you have the option of blocking the people that are likely to be cyber bullying you but this obviously doesn’t stop it from continuing. However, if it saves you from having to see the abuse and improves your emotional wellbeing its definitely worth considering.

Don’t blame yourself, its not your fault, no matter what a bully says or does, you should not be ashamed of who you are or what you feel. The bully is the person with the problem, not you.

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24 Comments

  1. Mohammed

    Wow. This is awesome. ” No matter what a bully says or does, you should not be ashamed of who you are or what you feel”.

  2. Jhelhai

    It’s really an eyesore, Nice one

  3. Quan

    An insightful article

  4. Enigma

    I’m able to totally relate with this. Thank you for this message.

  5. Fatai waliyat Abisola

    Nice write up. I hope people learn from this

  6. Irinoye Rukayat

    What a great thought…this is actually one of those things we should address in the society of today…Thank for addressing it….I wish young people who feel threatened can a glimpse of this…keep it up…I feel motivated …Thank you

  7. Temmy

    Nice write-up, how I wish this can really be address in the society

  8. Mariam

    I love this, am interesting read.

  9. Siyanbee

    Thank you sister… Nice write up

  10. Azeez Afeez

    Cyberbullying is a sensitive topic, thank you for shedding light on it. This would especially be useful for boys and girls in this internet age.

    A bully doesn’t have life, I personally take them that way, you really do not need to take whatever they say seriously. Learn to always ignore them.

    • zee_Nabby

      Exactly..Learn to always ignore them, the bully is the person with the problem, not you. Thank you sir!!!

  11. Mukhtar Akinyode

    With utmost sincerity, I say thank you to you for taking your time to brainstorm on this significant topic, thanks for showing an act of rare humanitariansm. God bless your pen.

  12. Ololade sodiq

    The bullied should not feel overwhelmed,they should try and overcome their negative emotions

  13. Abubakrisodiq

    Wow this is amazing. I wish people should learn from this.

  14. Degokay

    When people said you’re a terrible person, it wasn’t actually about you, what they were doing is trying to project themselves on you.

    And it amazes me most times that we actually found ourselves being hurt with such remarks. It makes us second guess ourselves.

    There’s this professor of Java by the name Kaity Sierra, she’s also a software product nerd. She used to maintain one of the best blogs I will ever read on people, computer and software.

    One of her philosophy is; Instead of building a better camera, we should build a better photographer. While that might be like over the top idea, it turned out that that’s actually the most important part of every business, be it software or hardware.

    So, why am I talking about Kaity? I remembered her story since you talk about cyber bullying.

    She was bullied, she couldn’t take it, she quit her professor work, she went through anxiety and she eventually left the United state for New Zealand.

    While she was chased off the internet years ago, her work still remain a phenomenal one.

    Back to the matter on ground, you have zero power as a person to control what someone would say, or how they will act to you but you can control the way you react.

    It should be noted here that many of the people who do such action are already miserable about their own life, they are only looking for a prey to feel good about themselves.

    Don’t be their prey, and the way to not be one is to ignore them – it will always drives them crazy and they can’t do shit.

  15. Happy Zirra

    There are alot of people out there full of garbage. The only way they feel better is by sharing this garbage with people who have nothing to do with it, so it’s best to avoid them and their garbage if not, you get stained of dirt.
    Nice one Zee_Nabby

  16. UmmAbdurRahman

    One line I made out of this “People bully because they have low self-esteem”

    This is awesome

  17. Akinsola Amudah

    Nice write up. Hope people can learn from this. Cyberbullying is no joke and it pains me to see people treating it as a joke

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