According to Leo Buscaglia, “Love is life and if you miss love, you miss life.” He also said “the life and love we create is the life and love we live”.
I shall not bore you with several definitions because virtually everyone can define it in a way.
I can identify four types of love: the filial/familial, the friendly/platonic, the romantic/sexual and the agape
Love is defined as “a complex set of emotions, behaviors and beliefs associated with strong feelings of affection, protectiveness, warmth, and respect for another person.
The filial love
The filial love is that type which exists among family members, the love of a mother for her son, the love of a father for his daughter, the love of a brother to his sister. This love is straight, deep and profound. The love is true.
This is type of love that holds a man/ male and a woman/female in a spell bound affection, quest and desire. This kind of love may be true or false. When it is false, it’s lust. A true lover admires the object of love, appreciates his/her qualities, understand his/her weakness and find ways of supporting the partner. A false lover is a “luster”, may we attract people with genuine intentions. To lust is to be lost!
The agape love
The highest form of love. The agape love is the love of God. According to my religion, we would say, “I love you for the sake of Allah”. The agape love does not have anything to do with the physical but it rathers concerns the spiritual. For example,many women religiously love their spiritual leaders because of the guidance they draw from those leaders. Many good sisters would the love Amir and the chief imam or Many Christian sisters love the pastor because they personify the Godly qualities they would want to be associated with, qualities they themselves would like to have. The love is for God and solely because of God.
The platonic/friendly love
It is a type of love or close relationship, that is non-romantic. A relationship that you see your friend as they are, rather than what you want them to be. You accept them at their worst, no strings attached. You praised them at their best.
So, what is my point exactly?
All men are born to die, we know it. We carry it with us always. What matters is for you to give out love a lot . Reduce your intrapersonal love which is the extreme love for oneself that drives people to selfishness. In intrapersonal love, the might is right and the foul is fair. Are you selfish or selfless? I’ve asked myself too.
There’s interpersonal too. The interpersonal love holds at a social level, the love of one’s brother, one’s neighbor, one’s guests and one’s fellow human beings. The interpersonal love is good and it keeps communities, societies and nations together.
What is love got to do with you if you don’t live yourself?
This question was asked by Kendrick Lamar in his Damn album and I think this has a lot to do with your article.
Many people love the other, but not themselves.
Because when you do love yourself, you’ll understand that you’re responsible for your growth, you’ll understand that moving away from people who threaten your mental health is good for you, you’ll most importantly know that you have to be comfortable in your own skin before you can ask someone else to appreciate you.
Sadly, because many people are lost, and their definition of love is from a constructed reality like the movie, they tend to have less reality of what love could and should be.
Many grow up in a home so toxic that they don’t remember what true love could and should look like, and when these people found someone who treats them better than they think they deserve, they think those people are trying to take advantage of them.
Love is hard, it meant you have to be for yourself first before you be for others. For if you lost yourself while chasing someone else, it will be hard to find yourself.
What love got to do with you if you don’t love yourself?
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