Few weeks ago I watched a TedX YouTube video, there I saw a woman who said she’s a sex worker give a rather compelling speech about men. She said that more than 50 percent of all the men that contacted her just wanted to talk to her. Yes to me it was strange but she went on to say that all these men wanted to share their deepest thoughts, fears and worries without being judged, ridiculed or laughed at.
From the first day a man is born he is forced to face the weird reality that he must not show emotions or even show pain, he must suck it up and ” be a man”. You can’t express your fears, you can’t be human simply because you are a man. Recently I was in a very difficult situation and I just needed to talk to someone about my fears, I didn’t even finish talking to my close friend when he looked at me like I was an alien and said ” dude, you’re a man”.
Statistics have shown that most suicides are committed by men, drug abuse, alcoholism, addictions are mostly done by men. You ask why? Because they can’t express their pain, they can’t talk to anyone without being judged, all they do is bottle up all that pent up emotions and use addictions to numb the pain for awhile. Those who don’t have addictions end up committing suicide because they can’t take it any longer.
There are times when men just want to take their foot off the pedal and rest, sometimes to take their hands off the steering wheel and just find peace away from all the noise and madness. Unfortunately that’s almost impossible these days, the few lucky ones do have a partner or spouse that understands them enough to be their comfort zone. Men can’t handle emotions very well, they can’t handle pain but yet are expected by society to suck it up and BE A MAN. Men also cry.