When you say you are working on yourself, what do you mean? Because if it’s continuing the same routine that you have had for years in hope that you will find what you are looking for within, then you are doing it all wrong.
If you are working on yourself then truly work on yourself.
You know quite well, you can’t jump into the world of personal development and expect to transform your life overnight. It takes patience and a commitment to working on the right things.
Begin saying ‘No’ to things you don’t want to do. Saying no doesn’t mean that you are being rude, selfish, or unkind. These are all unhelpful beliefs that make it hard to say no but who cares? Do you care?
Sometimes I even find myself thinking “ no, no, no” and then I blurt out “yes.” I realize this is not just a challenge that I face, but one that many people go through every day. It’s a heavy burden to carry because with the urge to say yes also comes a lack of self confidence and self value.
Make more time for things that you do, and if you don’t know what you want, then do a brainstorm. Call whoever you are comfortable with to have that difficult conversation that you have been putting off for so long. Focus on ways to ease your anxiety. Listen to health and positive podcasts. Watch comedy skits.
Read self help books and romance novels, or thriller or something intellectually stimulating and interesting or none at all if books aren’t your thing.
The point is, be in motion. It’s not enough to continue the same routine that you have had for the last few years, because working on yourself requires effort. It requires change. It requires you to step out of your comfort zone and try new things.
It requires you to talk about the difficult stuff, the scary stuff, the painful and heartbreaking stuff. Your mindset is the crucible of everything you know, your thoughts and ideas about your environment and your role in it.
Developing a positive mindset will not only give you the confidence to move forward in developing the other areas of your life, but it will also help you get to where you want to go and help you become who you want to be.
If you want to grow then you truly need to work on yourself and for that, you need to do something, anything, rather than nothing at all.